To me, I believe that everyone is beautiful. I do not care what flaws or imperfections you have, but you are beautiful. Now, some people mistake it as how great a person looks. It is not that. It is how well a person carries themselves. That sounds cliche, but life is a cliche. We all die whenever it is time. We do what we do. Now, the visual of a person only feeds your eyes, their personality and demeanor feed your soul.
Why you are beautiful:
1. You are unique. No one has the exact same qualities as you do. You walk, talk, eat, etc. in a certain way. Wouldn't the world be boring if everyone were to be the same as everyone else?
2. You have a sense of judgement. You know what is morally right and wrong. Not everyone is like that though, but you are like that.
3. You have your quirks. Little things that you do, ex. Biting your lip, smiling, scrunching up your nose, socially awkwardness, etc.
Where does influences on body image comes from:
1. Media: Idiotic people tell us what is pretty and what is not. Guess what, everyone is attractive in their own way; they are just too blind to see that.
2. Culture: Ah, America, we are just a messed up bunch. Increasing melanin in your skin is now beautiful while ghostly pale skiing was perfect a century ago. Depending where you are from (Indonesia thinks that super long necks are pretty) and what time period you think of (voluptuous women were hot back then, but I still think they look good), it changes.
View on Beauty:
1. It changes. Remember in the 70s where the fresh-face look was cute and in the 90s where androgynous look was way cool (thank Calvin Klein and Kate Moss for that)? Now, I do not even know what is going on with world.
2. It is subjective. People insult me everyday (daddy long legs, etc.), but some people compliment me (my eyes look caramel to some but I just see a brown blob). It all depends on the person.
3. You are born with it. However, do not use your physics features as a disadvantage nor an advantage. Take your physical characteristics, your personality, and your habits and accept them. Then, everything falls into place.
Experiences with it (The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly)
1. I have met people who were extremely visual attractive, but their personality says otherwise. These were rude, insensitive people. However, I did have encounters with people who were kind, but I just wanted to show the bad sideas well. Be yourself, and the risk of becoming as uninteresting as a thumbtack will leave.
2. I have met people who were not classically visual attractive, but their personality brightens up the room and brings a new dimension to the coversation. There are exceptions, of course, they can be rude and insensitive as well.
3. Someone judged me by the way I look. I was walking down the hallway as I usually do, and a girl comes up to me and tells me that I am a fake. Such a nice person isn't she? Anyway, I am brutally honest, and I did not even know the girl. Lets just say, I took it and went out. I guess it because I do not smile much, who knows?
4. My so-called friends (not anymore) judge my best and beloved friends by their looks. They will just talk nonstop about their image and insult them when they do not even know them. I got annoyed and left. I could not take it any longer.
My thoughts:
1. The package (your personality, quirks, demeanor) should judge you, not your looks. Your looks are just a bonus. If you are kind and true to yourself, I do not see anything wrong with you. I actually had a crush on a guy because of his quirks and gentleness (he always squints his eyes whenever he smiled, talked in a calming and soothing voice, and chose his battles correctly)
2. Perfection is so overrated. Enjoy your flaws because that is what makes you, you. I actually do not like perfect people because they think that there is nothing wrong with them. There is always something wrong, but it does not mean you have to fix it.
Who am I attracted to:
1. Kindness: Be kind. It is as simple as it can get.
2. Intimidation is a turn off. You are human, you are no better than me. Treat me like an equal.
3. Being able to know your flaws. If you know that you are not perfect and you are fine with that, I enjoy that because you know that you are human.
4. It is the little things that get me attracted to certain people. Maybe it is the way they talk, the way they smile, their voice, their quirks. It is the little things that get me, not how many footballs you can catch.
5. I could care less about how fit you are. As long as you are taking care of your body, I do not care on how big your biceps are. Big arms or overly ripped abs scare me, so just take care of your body which just means bathing and keeping clean and staying away from drugs. Easy as that.
Anyway, people have their own views on beauty. What do you consider beautiful? Do you consider yourself beautiful (if not, you are disagreeing with me (;, you shouldn't)? What are some quirks that you enjoy of a person?
With Love,
Violet Sar Bleu
P.S. This is a very complex and interesting topic, be careful when discussing it.
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